Sunday, April 13, 2008

Clomid, will you be my Valentine?

I spent Valentine's Day with my gynecologist. If I can be completely honest, it wasn't as romantic a holiday as I was hoping for (I blame it on the speculum sitting on the counter beside me). My gyno had previously hoped the first batch of progesterone would get me right on track and then it would be clear sailing. But I was back in the office with my crappy chart on Valentine's. To celebrate, my doc had also brought my crappy bloodwork results. I hadn't ovulated.

The gyno was still positive. I'd take the progesterone again to start a new cycle, I'd start Clomid, we'd throw in some more bloodwork. Honestly, 90% of my brain was thinking, "I'm just having issues from being on the pill so long." The other 10%, the deep-down-keep-it-to-myself part, was starting to freak out. What if it's a real problem? What if it's not just from coming off the pill?

We wrapped up the appointment with a solid plan and I headed up to the front desk with my check out paper from the doctor in hand. I stopped dead in my tracks about halfway there. Under "Reason for Visit", my doctor had checked off "Infertility".

It actually took my breath away....like I was punched in the stomach. One little check in a teeny tiny box stopped my world on its axis for just a moment. Really??!! You're already calling it infertility?? We're already calling it infertility?? I'm not ready to call it that.

I got in my car and just sat there, the word infertile bouncing around in the empty silence. And then, I got angry at my gynecologist. Like I wanted to go back in that office and, in front of his patients, yell at him. The only words I could come up with were f*ck you with some c'mons and seriouslys thrown in. I decided that would not be a very wise choice. Instead I went home, feeling angry and sad about a little check in a teeny tiny box.

5 comments:

Echloe said...

Can I just say ditto to the it now being called infertility thing. The same thing happened to me last week when I called the doctors office to dispute a charge, and they claimed I am being charged more than the usual co-pay because it is for infertility. Yikes. I almost cried right there.

B said...

Good luck with your journey. If us 'old timers' can be of any help, please shout.

apronstringsemily said...

Welcome to the world of IF blogging. I've personally found this a great method to vent some frustrations and general sadness I've gone through in my infertility journey. Good luck with your travels down this journey. And if you ever need anything ... :-)

Amy said...

Good luck to you. Found you via Mel at Stirrup Queens. Hope your journey is a short one!

Mya said...

I found your blog from Lost and Found. I just wanted to say, I'm right there with ya. Being labeled "infertile" totally sucks. I hope your journey will be a short one.